Sunday, April 08, 2007

Some well chosen words

Love and work are the cornerstones of our humanness.
-Sigmund Freud

Over at Anvilcloud's page (link on my sidebar because I'm too lazy to put it in just now...) the quote of the day today was this.

I've been giving a lot of thought (gee, really??) to both love and work. I'm having trouble this week getting into both, actually. My mind has been on mortality, not so strangely.

A couple weeks back I took a last-minute trip to Ontario to attend Henry's funeral. It was a case of someone who left far too early, and it hit me like a tonne of bricks.

I got scared.

I hadn't thought about the fact that I, too, could simply be here today and not, tomorrow. I went into a panic of sorts, suddenly wanting to contact everyone I know to remind them they're still on my radar. For good or bad, this seemed like a hugely ominous task because -- I know so very many people!

Yesterday I received a phone call from L., who was Henry's fiance when he lived here in Calgary. Talk about the last person on the planet I was expecting to hear from! I had struggled with whether or not to contact her to inform her of Henry's passing. Their engagement was over 15 years ago, and I wasn't all that clear in my own mind if it was the "right" thing to do. My sister had asked me about it, and I had told her where I stood. She took it upon herself to contact L., and as it turned out, it was the right move. L. and I had a lengthy conversation and she seemed thankful to have been kept in the loop.

Now, with respect to love and work and how they both may relate to mortality, I guess I simply don't want to let either slip by without giving them both my best shot.


Anvilcloud said...

At first, it's a little unnerving to be hit by the notion of your own mortality, but you do get used to it. Ain't none of us gonna get outta here alive.

Miss 1999 said...

You know, it's hard when you lose someone. So many times, when we lose someone, we do take the time to think about our own lives, mortality, and the things that really matter.

I'm glad you were able to talk to L., even though you weren't sure what to do about telling her (I wouldn't have really known either.)

You take care of yourself-- and I hope you and your family are having a safe, and happy Easter!

Expat Traveler said...

yeah I guess Rositta is going through this right now with her mother having a stroke and in the hospital..

Me on the other hand, it's more nervousness from lack of a decent job...

Janice said...

Hi Dave,

It sounds like your are having a tough time right now, and I know how you feel.

My dad died in 1984 from colon cancer, and I was told then; your dad's dying and colon cancer runs in the family, so you more than likely will die of this too.

Oh yay.

My dad got mad at me for getting upset. What was I suppose to do? I was only 20 at the time. Was I supose to say "weee, I now know what will kill me?"

Mortality? I rather not think about it thank you.


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Funerals do have an effect on us.
The remind us that we are mortal, no matter how important we may be or not be.
They also inspire us to be the best we can with the time we are given.
Love and work are two areas worth our time and attention.

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